New Orleans Wedding Send-Offs and Second Lines
Weddings in New Orleans and throughout the rest of the country will often conclude with a grand send-off by guests at the end of the reception, which is a wonderful way to end the night. But here in the Crescent City, we have an option that you will be highly unlikely to find anywhere else, your own second line parade through the streets.
Second Line Parades
If you live in this area, you almost certainly know what a second line parade is. And if you've visited from out of town, particularly in the French Quarter on weekends, you have most likely witnessed a few of these. While "second line" has a specific traditional and historic definition stemming from unofficial marchers who would follow behind a Mardi Gras krewe's parade, the term has come to be more broadly used to include parades arranged for weddings and other special occasions. The parade essentially consists of the newly married couple and all their guests being led through the streets with a brass band. While sometimes the brass band is at the very front of the procession, my preference is to have the couple first, then the band, followed by the guests. Having the couple at the front of the parade, with the band behind them, makes for much better photographs.
And by no means is it necessary that you have a huge guest count to have a second line. While I've done many with hundreds of guests in attendance, I've also done them with only a dozen or two, and they all had a fabulous time regardless.
One issue to be aware of is that as of 2018 the NOPD will no longer issue second line parade permits for parades starting after 10:30pm. The goal is to have all parades finished by 11:00pm, reducing disruption to residents of the French Quarter (it's easy to forget that the Vieux Carré is actually a neighborhood!). If your reception is ending prior to 10:30pm, this will likely not affect you, but for receptions ending later, and you want to have a second line parade, you'll have to move it up to be after the ceremony. There are some other permit changes that were announced at the same time, which may affect a post-ceremony second line, specifically restrictions on allowing parades on certain major streets during afternoon rush hour.
There are a wide variety of elements that can be used for guests to give the couple a grand departure at the end of the reception. Some are more challenging or more easy to execute, and in some cases there are venue restrictions that influence the decision as well.
In most cases, a send-off and a second line parade at the end of the wedding are mutually exclusive because of the characteristics of each. However, if you really want both, the best way to do this is to split them up. Usually this means having the second line right after the ceremony, and the grand departure at the end of the night, though I did have one recent wedding that did the opposite, having sparklers right after the ceremony, with a brief horse-drawn carriage ride around the French Quarter, and then at the end of the night a second line.
Sparklers are undoubtedly the most common send-off method, and for good reason... they look great! But they are also the most difficult to coordinate. Imagine the guests lining up and being handed sparklers in a situation where no one is truly in charge. Without instructions, a few of them might start to light theirs, which causes everyone to think it's time to light them. Meanwhile, the couple are still inside the venue, preparing to leave, gathering their belongings, saying a few last goodbyes, perhaps grabbing a last drink. A few minutes elapse, and when the couple emerges, all the sparklers have burned out already, leaving the guests only holding little metal sticks.
For this reason, it is essential to have someone (or maybe a few people, if it's a larger group of guests) who can take charge and make sure this does not happen. An experienced wedding coordinator is without question an extremely valuable asset to have on hand for this, as they've done many of these departures before, and can make sure that no premature lighting occurs. And when it is go-time, they can get the sparklers lit in the quickest and most efficient manner. Venue staff can sometimes help with this if you don't have a wedding planner, but don't assume this to be the case. Lastly, if you have a particularly assertive friend or relative, they can be assigned this task.
Some venues, especially historic French Quarter buildings, do not allow sparklers near them out of fear of a fire being started, or for insurance reasons. So bubbles are often the next choice. But even if sparklers are permitted, don't automatically rule out bubbles, as they look great too, photograph well, and are substantially easier to coordinate, since it does not matter if some of the guests happen to start blowing bubbles a few minutes before you are ready to depart.
Birdseed, Flower Petals, Confetti
These tossable items are another great choice if the venue allows it. My favorite part about this kind of send-off is that it usually ends up being quite chaotic and energetic. As the couple is running through the lineup of guests, they are being inundated with these things being thrown by guests, and there's almost always a groomsman or two who makes it their personal mission to dump a huge double-handful of this stuff onto the fleeing couple. While this may not (or may!) sound like the most enjoyable way to end your wedding, rest assured that it makes for GREAT memorable photographs!
Streamer Sticks and Glowsticks
Some venues don't want any throwable material used for send-offs, due to the debris left behind. In these cases, consider a streamer stick send-off. Glowsticks are another great option if it's a nighttime wedding. These can provide a fun, safe, and mess-free way for your guests to see you off at the end of your reception!
The Getaway Vehicle
In the case of French Quarter weddings in New Orleans, more often than not there is no limo awaiting the newlyweds after the send-off, as the couple's hotel is usually nearby (if it's not the actual wedding venue). Sometimes couples choose to simply depart on foot, especially if the reception is at the hotel where they are staying. Otherwise, arranging for a horse-drawn carriage to be waiting outside the venue is a popular choice. I can't think of a more romantic way to cap off a wedding reception than a carriage ride through the French Quarter!
For events taking place in other parts of town, the couple will typically depart by limousine, or their own vehicle. In cases of the latter, sometimes their friends will take the opportunity to play a little prank on the newly married couple. This can be as harmless as the traditional tin cans tied to the back of the car or writing funny and/or congratulatory messages all over the windows, or it can be, well, perhaps not quite so harmless.
Such was the case with a wedding years ago at the Pavilion of the Two Sisters in City Park. A few of the groomsmen, tasked with moving the groom's car to the entrance of the venue at the end of the night for the couple to make their escape, came up with the idea of filling up the air conditioning vents in the car with baby powder, and then set the fan switch on high so that as soon as the car was started the next time, a huge cloud of baby powder would spew out of the vents. And that's exactly what happened! He never could get all of the powder out of the car, and ended selling it (fortunately, it was an older car, probably about ready for replacement anyway).
For a more recent wedding, a friend of the couple was kind enough to lend them the use of his gorgeously restored Bel-Air for their send off from the ceremony and transportation to the reception.
But perhaps my favorite departure vehicle story of all time was for a Baton Rouge wedding. This particular bride's distaste for El Caminos (that funky looking car/truck vehicle associated with the 1970s) had been an ongoing joke between her and her father for many years, and when he was tasked with arranging post-reception transportation, he knew exactly what he wanted to do. The problem is, you can't exactly just call a limo company and ask them to send an El Camino. So he got creative, and simply drove up and down the streets of various neighborhoods until he found one parked outside a home, and offered the owner a little cash to be the couple's chauffeur at the end of the night. The look on the bride's face when she saw that thing parked in front of the venue was priceless!